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would throw the dolphin a fish whenever she did something the trainer wanted
her to. But every once in a while … the trainer would throw a fish into the
water for no apparent reason… because dolphins need a free fish once in a
is not the morose fatalistic book the title belied. It is charming, sensible
and a rather lovely read. It is more anecdotal than scientific. There is
nothing statistical, evidence-based or conclusive in what could pass for a
memoir of an avuncular soul who is perhaps just a little wiser than most of us.
Though written by a child psychiatrist practicing in Berkeley (perhaps an
oxymoron), it compiles more of Robert Shaw's observations – they are not case
studies - in strip mall restaurants and the beachside than large datasets with
worthy conclusions. Throughout the book, Shaw steers clear of coming across as
a holier-than-thou televangelist, purveyor of the singular way of child craft,
an admirable feat given the mushrooming of this ilk of late. As most of the
material is in the first person singular, Wood's contribution is presumed
A fairly broad
spectrum of issues is handled, from nipple confusion and revolving group child
care to television addiction and the valueless society we inhabit. This is not
a How-To book; it is a DIY book that tells you to intuit what you think is best
for your child and run with it, because that nearly always works. This is a
reassuring book for first parents who are nearly annihilated by the sheer
volume of unsolicited advice hemorrhaging from well meaning friends and, worse,
The tasting menu
features early childhood development, bonding and childcare, training and
teaching small children, handling upsetting behavior, childhood education and
the dangers of the media upon children. Everyone, as I did, will probably
disagree with at least a couple of the polemic (non-parental home care,
recurrent reference to Columbine which goes nowhere) but we still love the
common sense fountainhead Shaw appears to possess, not as common as we should
like to think. Permissive parenting is rearing its ugly head all over the
landscape and we are actively witnessing the fallout. This is one of those rare
books about parenting that is reassuring, calming and hopeful. I felt the need
to point-click and post copies to new parents I really care about, just in time
for the Holidays.
Read more in:
Coles R: The Moral
Intelligence of Children: How to Raise a Moral Child.240 pp. Plume Books.
Hymowitz KS: Liberation's Children – Parents and
Kids in a Postmodern Age. 224 pp. Ivan R Dee. August 2003
Hymowitz KS: Ready or Not: What Happens when We
Treat Children as Small Adults. 296 pp. Encounter Books. November 2000
Newberger EH: The Men
They Will Become: The Nature and Nurture of Male Character. 384pp. Perseus Publishing.
Sells, SP: Parenting
your Out-of-Control Teenager: 7 Steps to Reestablish Authority and Reclaim
Love. 368 pp. St. Martin's Press. October 2002
Stuart T, Bostrom C:
Children at Promise – 9 Principles to Help Kids Thrive in an At-Risk World. 192
pp. Jossey-Bass. August 2003
Taylor J: Positive
Pushing: How to Raise a Successful and Happy Child. 304 pp. Hyperion April 2003
Winn M: The Plug-In
Drug: Television, Computers and Family Life. 332 pp. Penguin Books. April 2002
2004 Sundeep Nayak
Dr. Nayak is an Assistant Professor of
Clinical Radiology in the University of California School of Medicine San
Francisco and his interests include mental health, medical ethics, and gender
studies. A voracious reader and intrepid epicure, he enjoys his keyboards too
much. He believes the children are our future so you should teach them well and
let them lead the way.
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