An
educational approach to teaching men how to provide sexual pleasure to the
women in their lives. Lou Paget
presents very explicit and informed concepts on sexual intimacy and approaching
the act of sex with “expanded awareness”.
As the author of the Bestselling book, How To Be A Great Lover, she
focuses this book for men, about women.
She has titled herself a “sexpert”, giving sexuality seminars to men and
women alike. She explains, the contents
of this book is based on “listening, observing and hearing the feedback of
thousands of men and woman, sharing ‘what works’.”

I found the book to be an “easy” read and although very
informative, it came across as somewhat redundant to other books very similar
in nature. The concept of open
communication, once again, being presented as the core foundation for sexual
intimacy. The techniques presented were
not new or surprising.

I was impressed with the thoroughness of her research in
STDs and other health related issues, the listing of resources for readers to
become more informed, and the impact these issues have on basic communication,
as well as sexual intimacy. I was also
impressed with the extensive listing of resources from condoms to “toys”, as a means
to heighten awareness through education of the ongoing need for protection
against unwanted, unplanned pregnancy and keeping the sex act healthy and fun.
Gaining the “male” perspective and candidness, in which their attitudes were
presented, was quite enjoyable.

Throughout the book there are boxes labeled “Secret from
Lou’s Archives”, that I found somewhat distracting in the overall presentation
of the book. However, there is no
question in my mind that this book can be a valuable asset to the novice
reader. The resources listed alone,
increases the credibility of the material.

I would recommend this book for young newly weds, young
adults and certainly anyone uninformed about the hows, what, when and where in
pursuing sexual relationships. How
to Give Her Absolute Pleasure would easily fit into a variety of categories
within a library or bookstore, such as, Self-help, Health and Sexuality and
Relationships.

© 2002 Susan K. Wingate

Susan
Wingate is currently working in personnel management at the University of
North Carolina, Chapel Hill, North Carolina. She has worked for twelve years as
a chemical dependency counselor for adolescents, as well as having worked with
survivors of domestic violence and sexual abuse. Her passion is to be a vehicle
for creating awareness for self and others.

Categories: Sexuality, SelfHelp, Relationships